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Hey lovely readers! I figured today’s post would feature this patchwork skirt seeing that the title of this post is “Patching My Life Back Together”. Patch skirt? Patching my life? Yeah, you get it. If you caught my latest YouTube video, you know that I’ve been feeling depressed lately about a lot of different things. You can watch the video below to find out exactly what I mean.
And if you have watched, I just want to say, I’m more than appreciative for all the love and advice you ladies have given me this past week. My audience is AMAZING. I’ve found kindred spirits online, people who relate to me and understand me, and have gone or are going through the same feelings I am. And that makes me feel less alone. I’ve always been somewhat introverted and closed off, scared to reveal my true self to people. I’ve never had as many friends and as much support as I do now. So I am truly thankful whenever you guys take the time out to brighten a complete stranger’s – like myself – day. Though I would hope by now that you don’t think of me as a stranger and more like your friend or your sis.
So of course, my depression hasn’t completely disappeared. There are still lingering doubts in my head, but having talked to you guys this past week through YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, phone calls, I can say my days are looking up.
For today’s post, I decided to just gather all the positive, self love comments I received from you guys and share it in this post. A patchwork of encouragement, body positivity, and just self love. So if you feel as though you are alone, here’s a reminder that there are people out there JUST LIKE YOU. Having the same struggles you do. Just as lost as you are. Who find the strength to just push through, and take life one day at a time.
YOU guys did ALL the work for me. I just threw together your gems and testimonies and this post was born. I hope you feel as encouraged as I did after reading these comments. And if you want to share your testimony or advice, leave a comment below. Maybe even give yourself the advice YOU need to hear. You’ll never know who needed to hear that SAME advice too.
*I have not posted the authors of each comment, just to respect their privacy.
Take one step at a time. I have been MIA too with my dad passing and I’m still going through a lot. What helped me was a diary and writing quotes. Try to pray more, laugh more, joke more and smile more. The negative things, try to reverse into a positive.
Dude, I’ve been in a funk as well! Like legit hard on myself because now I think I also want to change my degree, financial issues, and personal insecurities! WE ALL are dealing with Mind Monsters, (anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc.) You’re not alone. I promise you. Everything you’re going through RIGHT NOW is strengthening you, it’s humbling you, and most importantly…preparing you for your purpose. Whenever you audience increases, AND IT WILL (IN JESUS NAME), use the platform to help other ladies dealing with skin issues just like you so that they may never have to feel like you did.
I just wanted to remind you not to get discouraged because you’re in your caterpillar stages in life….all of this is transforming you to be the beautiful purposeful butterfly God called you to be. I believe in you. You’re a STAR, you’re wonderfully made, you may feel like you’re under attack but it’s only because the Devil sees something in you that you don’t even see in yourself! His only option IS to try and make you feel horrible about your CURRENT situation so that you don’t continue to STRIVE to go to the GREAT places God has called you to. Go easy on yourself babe. God bless you, Jesus loves you <3
What I’ve learned over the past year is that with all the webinars and classes, etc., our mind has been trained to miss the simple victories because everyone only talks about the facts that got them to the top – not the emotional and physical and financial struggles. I mean, to be honest, I don’t have the # of page views I want per month on my blog, but I’m motivated to keep going simply because people are encouraged by me just doing it (blogging).
You are not alone. Your feelings and emotions are valid. A lot of people just don’t speak up about it (depression). I guess so many of us prefer to suffer in silence. Find someone [to talk to] who you can accept as a source of balance.
Worrying about other people will distract you from your own shit. We all have our own stories so comparisons really have no importance. By all means use some of their [your competition’s] approaches to better your strategies. That’s how people use competition. They don’t follow their competition to deter them. They use their competition’s strategies to their advantage. But using comparisons to determine your own life does NOT make sense. Use it to better yourself. Don’t use other people to determine what you want to do with your life. No one should have that type of power.
Unfollow anyone you compare yourself to and only follow those who inspire you to be yourself.
There used to be a time when I felt the same way (referring to my Life Update video)…some days I still do. But hold on to the things that make you feel good. You have to maintain what makes you YOU. As cliche as it sounds, everything happens for a reason.
I did a fast at the beginning of the year because I was struggling with the same issue (referring to uncertainty about life) and I just really wanted some clarity. I was like Lord, I need you to send me down a tablet with step by step instructions for how to do life ’cause I can’t handle making all these decisions. I did the fast and God didn’t answer any of my questions about my future. I was like hmm this ain’t working lol. But during that time, He showed me how to trust Him more and gave me peace that He is working everything out. It is very frustrating to not be in on the plans He has for your life! And I know it feels like God isn’t listening or you can’t hear Him speaking to you. I’ve been there and honestly most days I’m still there, but honestly just taking every moment and giving it to God can change your whole perspective and give you peace you never knew you could have in the midst of chaos…Every time I start to doubt, get frustrated or worry about my future, I take a moment to say a quick prayer.
I also experienced a rough January with blogging and content and figuring out life honestly. So just know that you’re not alone. Remember that God loves you and He has equipped you for ALL that He has called and will call you to do…Perfection does not inspire people, persistence in the face of trials does.
I’m not sure what you’re going through, but I do know this, good things happen to good people. This too shall pass. A star always shines even when it’s dark. Remember that.
Even though you may see the flaws, others are inspired and still enjoy your content…Some people let their fears prevent them from even going to college, let alone having a blog or YouTube channel. Never mind your flaws and appreciate all of your accomplishments. Be proud.
I can relate to feeling selfish too when I get depressed and anxious because I do have a lot to be grateful for. However, I still feel depressed and anxious over things in my life…I try to remind myself of the things I take for granted that others wish they had.
When I try to express to friends and family my lack of happiness with my self, they just don’t get it. They think I’m ungrateful, but they don’t get that it’s disappointing when you make goals for yourself and you don’t reach them or not as quickly as you thought you would. I have been trying to hype myself up to start a YouTube channel for like 2 years now and I just lack the confidence. I’m so scared of the feedback, the negative comments, and not being pretty enough or interesting enough. It doesn’t help that I’ve also struggled with depression and low self esteem since junior high. You have definitely inspired me to kick start my YouTube channel. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.
Everyday I’m struggling. The other day I was crying in the mirror because of all the weight I gained. I try to remain positive around people because I don’t want them to be unhappy. I know misery loves company and I wouldn’t want that for anyone…You’re going to get to the point where you’re gonna be like “fuck all of these superficial standards, I know I got the juice. I’m confident in my abilities”. And all it takes is to unlearn everything you convinced yourself and pay attention to the ACTUAL fact of things.
Your hard work will manifest! The universe doesn’t care how you feel about yourself, but instead the effort you make to make yourself better and make your dreams come true despite your insecurities. It speaks VOLUMES to do something even when you don’t believe in yourself…As long as you continue to make efforts, it gets better, but if you just sulk then it [your dreams/life] never works. Your dreams don’t work unless YOU do. Even when you accomplish something trivial pat yourself on the back.
I just got accepted into the program I wanted. And I remember crying to my boyfriend because I had to start EVERYTHING ALL OVER to become eligible for the program. I never thought I would even get here. And it put things into perspective. I have to appreciate the journey. And not only the goal. Because if I only focus on the goal, I’ll just complain my whole way there! And I won’t appreciate the hard work it took me to get there.
It’s a learning experience. You’re not gonna hit all the right marks from the get go. That’s impossible. You’re expecting way too much from yourself and it’s leading to this disappointment. Allow yourself to learn and grow. Be open to that because that’s what has to happen. You’ve never done this before. How could you possibly be an expert? Out of all of these successful entrepreneurs I’ve never seen one perfect story. Not one. The beginnings are all full of mistakes. Just give yourself time. You don’t think you owe yourself that much? You’re not even giving yourself a fair chance.
Thank you SO MUCH to all the co-authors of today’s post and to those who offered me advice over the phone. I can’t recall our convo word for word for a direct quote, but you know I appreciated the therapy session and the listening ear. Sorry if you had to hear me ugly cry over the phone lol.
That’s all folks!
If you have any advice for yourself, fellow blogger, fellow woman, leave a comment! Or if any one quote resonated with you, let us know below!
Until next time!